Why do male feminists have a hard time attracting women?
Question by Mike T: Why do male feminists have a hard time attracting women?
I’ve known a few male feminist (that are not gay) and most of them sleep alone 360 days out of the year. They have a hard time attracting women and are often reserved about putting women in their place when they do bad things.
On the other hand, every chauvanistic pig I’ve ever met has had few problems meeting, dating and bedding women.
I am neither extreme because I think both are unhealthy attitudes for men, but I am wondering what feminist think about this?
Best answer:
Answer by maluchica
i think u need to drop this crap u weirdo, stop thinkin bout tryna get women into bed and try goin to church, because there IS a God and He saved me from a life of terrible things, just go to church andhear about Him, i wouldnt be tellin u this if i didnt care! God bless!
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September 15th, 2010 at 5:07 am
And lots of feminists, including me, have a hard time finding men. I can’t seem to find a guy who isn’t a pig. And the few good guys I have found, are taken or aren’t interested in me as a girlfriend.
It works both ways.
September 15th, 2010 at 5:28 am
Introduce me to one of your male feminist friends! I’m tired and done with chauvanistic pigs!
September 15th, 2010 at 6:25 am
Where do you live?! I’ve never met a male that would call himself a feminist.. And to say the least I’d really like to.
Maybe some women are mistaking ‘feminist’ with ‘feminine’. Maybe they don’t understand what exactly he means by feminist.
Or, maybe it’s not the women. Maybe it’s just him-maybe his expectations are set too high. Maybe he’s just a real jerk, trying to call himself a feminist when he’s not. The possibilities are endless.
September 15th, 2010 at 6:32 am
There is no way to answer this question without using some generalizations, which will make some people mad I suppose.
And sadly, what you say is mostly true. It makes me sick that we (women) are not as liberated from social constructs as we would like to think we are.
Women tend to distrust men who focus on women. Maybe we think it’s a tactic, and that the guy is just doing it to get chicks.
It’s easier to deal with guys who are openly jerks–then we know exactly where we stand.
Women need to be needed, and we sometimes want to take care of a guy who obviously needs help.
Women with low self esteem (which, unfortunately, is the case with many women–it’s hard to shake off the habit due to generations of being treated like 2nd class citizens) feel uncomfortable around somebody who behaves differently than they think they deserve. This is regardless of how liberated a woman acts and thinks–it is ingrained. In short–if somebody loves me and I don’t believe I am lovable, then I can’t respect that person.
Then of course there is the law of selection–you can’t believe in Evolution without buying into its first tenet–Males are attracted to women who will best perpetuate the species, and women are attracted to men who will do the same. Big, strong, take-charge, bread-winners, etc. Guys who are too sensitive are not the best stock for the species. They won’t kill a single saber-toothed tiger.
And there are plenty of exceptions to every single thing I said–what is more credible, anecdotal evidence (i.e. “I have a brother who is little and effeminate and he gets tons of women…blah blah blah”) Or general trends?
Hopefully our tastes will evolve to catch up with our ideals.
September 15th, 2010 at 7:07 am
No sex for you!
…so you see how it feels… making fun of your feminist brothers…
(pause)
ok, time is up… sex for you now!
September 15th, 2010 at 7:33 am
that is an excellent question. and i wish i had an answer that made sense. i have no freakin clue!! women are always complaining that men take them for granted or they treat them as if they are superior to women, but your friend cant get a woman? are you sure its the feminist part of it? cuz that doesnt seem to b that repelling of a quality….
September 15th, 2010 at 7:53 am
Personally, I don’t see that as the case. I know plenty of non-gay males empathetic to the feminism cause. They seem to attract really grounded women too. Maybe the guys you know have some other flaw that could be the culprit?
September 15th, 2010 at 8:47 am
I guess you don’t know very many male feminists, since the few you know don’t attract women; there could be a lot of reasons, but since you give no relevant details, it’s impossible to say.
I wonder how you know how often they have sex, or why you assume no woman has ever been interested in them. I suspect that you just don’t know about the women in their lives.
I also (given the rest of what you say) doubt you have any grasp whatsoever of what it means to be a feminist, so I’m more inclined to doubt that you have the least idea of what you’re talking about.
Only a sub-human, loathsome, disgusting FREAK would feel that it’s appropriate to “put someone in their place”. Only infantile women (immature girls) put up with such behavior.
Similarly, there are a lot of wounded girls who put up with pigs; no self-respecting woman does.
A man who’s sexist, and refuses to grasp that I (and other women) are human beings are a complete turn-off. However attracted I may be, on first encounter, learning of a guy that he’s sexist (not a feminist, that is), I lose all interest immediately.
A man who assumes I’m an idiot, or not worth listening to is the last sort of man I’d ever sleep with.
On the other hand, I’ve known some really HOT feminists in my life.
Other feminists become desirable on getting to know them better.
Most women are attracted to men who are human beings; you seem not to grasp what that means, hence, your confusion.
Perhaps if you studied what it means to be human sufficiently to fake it, some (not-very-bright) woman would be sufficiently fooled to be attracted to you.
September 15th, 2010 at 9:35 am
I agree with the first poster. You should go to church – that’s where all the hot girls are.
AAAAA-MEN!
September 15th, 2010 at 10:16 am
hmmm. a feminist is a person who believes in equal rights, opportunities and general equality between the sexes. why would this make a guy have a hard time finding a date?
if i met a guy who explicitly told me he was not a feminist, that is obviously, syaing that he he assumes women inferior to men, to hell with him.
it must be that you dont actually know what a feminist is.
September 15th, 2010 at 10:16 am
#1 – they don’t WANT girls, they want to BE girls.
#2 – girls who like boys don’t like them.
September 15th, 2010 at 10:29 am
Perhaps it’s your own personal observation. All of the male feminists at my college seem to do good when it comes to getting women. And that’s to be expected; they’re hanging around women all of the time and agreeing with everything women say like some kind of a lapdog.
That said, we must take note that a lot of men choose to be “feminists” or embrace feminist ideals not simply because they believe in them, but because many do it subconsciously to be around women and sleep with women. Many of the “male feminists” got in to feminism by accident; by sympathizing with the feminist cause or a feminist notion at one point, and they realized that they inadvertantly attracted a lot of women to their corner. This often leads to a higher probability of intimacy with women for the male feminist.
On a personal note; if your skills suck that badly where you have to bash men, embrace feminism, and give these misandrists “a shoulder to cry on” just to get with women, then that’s pretty pathetic in my opinion. I can bash misandrist women and radical feminist women all day and still can get the ladies. Any unattractive male that bashes men and sympathizes with feminists and misandrists will have no problem getting women to sleep with him.
And that’s the absolute truth.